Take a moment right now to think about your real intention when it comes to love: * Is it most important to you to get someone to love you - to get love * Is it more important to you to be a loving person - to give love to yourself and others

Most people would love to have "real love," yet often they have no idea what real love is Take a moment to think about how you would define real love

James, in his middle 30s, was ready to meet his life partner, get married and have children After dating many women, he met Cindy

Would the prince have chosen Cinderella to marry if she was a miserable young woman If her stepsisters were beautiful but miserable, would he have chosen either of them

Some say that the purpose of life is to seek happiness Is happiness the purpose, or is happiness the result of another purpose

Marianne consulted with me because of anxiety and depression She had tried various forms of medication but was not reacting well to any of the drugs

How often have you become irritated or angry, given yourself up, started to argue or debate, teach or explain, or withdrew when someone was treating you badly - ordering you around, judging you, blaming you, or dumping their complaints or negativity on you How often have you behaved in any of these protective, controlling ways when someone is unknowingly interrupting you when you are trying to focus on something or get something done

Bobbie and Mac sought me out for couples counseling because they were on the verge of divorce - after 25 years of marriage Both had years of counseling, yet they could not find their way through their relationship problems

Sharon, one of the members of our website, emailed me asking me to write more on abuse, particularly covert incest She was in the process of ending her 4-year marriage with her covertly abusive husband, who is emotionally incestuous with his adult daughter

I often have the experience of someone showing up at one of my 5-day Intensives and presenting themselves as "all together", or "fine" "I'm not sure why I'm here," they state